Love Yourself First

I’m all about values, I truly believe that our values are the foundation for everything that’s important in our lives.  They build deeper, more meaningful relationships because we can connect with people on a deeper level when we have similar values to them.  They drive our behaviours because we can look to our values when making decisions which helps to know when something is right for us or not.  And we use our values to help us understand who we are and what we stand for.  So I wanted to share my values with you.

One of those is Love.

This is my number one value – and it hasn’t always been this way but since realising that Love begins with YOURSELF it’s become a part of everything I do.  And I really mean EVERYTHING.

It took me a while to get the concept of ‘you can’t truly love someone else if you don’t love yourself’ and I only started to really understand that when I started to work on myself and deal with my own emotions that I’d pushed aside for so long.  It was only then that I started to notice that my past relationships were based on fear – fear of feeling joy, fear of it not working out, fear of getting hurt.  I was always in a state of fear and I could never enjoy what I had in the moment and that was because I never really loved myself and because I didn’t love myself I didn’t allow myself to be vulnerable enough to enjoy what I had while it lasted.

You need to love yourself before you can love another and the best way to do that is to show yourself compassion, forgive yourself and others, set boundaries and don’t be scared to be vulnerable and to show people who you really are.

When you love yourself you will find it easier to love others without the controlling and the fear.  And when you love yourself you make it so much easier for others to love you too.

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